5 Signs That Couples Therapy is Working
If you and your partner have been going through a major rough patch, and nothing seems to be working, couples therapy seems like a natural step to take. But does couples therapy actually work? How can you tell if your couples therapy is working and if it’s successful? If you and your partner are serious, honest and committed to your therapy plan and towards improving your relationship, and if you have selected the right therapist who is equally committed to your goals, you will notice a positive difference in the indicators below.
Better and stronger communication between you and your partner The three C’s of intimacy are communication, commitment and compassion. With a suitable therapy plan, all three of these indicators will improve. Focusing on communication: a good therapist will help you find the gaps in your communication and teach you how to communicate well with your partner. You will notice that your communication will become stronger, supportive and understanding.
Modification of destructive and problematic behaviours As your communication improves, you will also notice a positive change in both partners’ behaviour. You no longer engage in behaviours that may cause physical or psychological harm to yourselves or each other. A good therapist will help you recognize destructive and problematic behaviours and find ways to help you reverse them.
Decreased emotional avoidance and improved emotional attention Emotional avoidance is one of the significant signs of a deteriorating relationship. In a problematic relationship, it is common for one or both parties to avoid expressing their feelings - and a therapist will help identify when this is happening. The right therapist will also help you find strategies to improve emotional expression, bringing you closer together.
Reaffirming and focusing on your strengths It is common to focus on the relationship’s weaknesses in a deteriorating relationship. You forget what initially attracted you to your partner and what made you want to start a relationship with each other in the first place. A strong therapist will help you identify (and in some cases, remember) the strengths of your relationship and help you focus on these strengths - reaffirming the value of your relationship.
Being able to view the relationship objectively Finally, a good therapist will help you find perspective in your relationship. Therapy will help you view your relationship through an objective lens - it will help you remove the “blame” from each other and focus on the issues at hand. In a functional relationship, you do not attack each other – you work together to solve the problem – and your therapist will help you accomplish this.
Are you ready to take the necessary steps to improve your relationship? Contact RD Psychotherapy today for more information on our outpatient services. Our specialization areas include addiction, PTSD, trauma, depression, anger management, anxiety, couples and marriage counselling, self-actualization, positive psychology and life coaching.